Coaching

Coaching intro

The best person to help you is you! Coaching gives you the tools to do this now and in the future.

How can coaching help you?

Build self confidence

Confidence starts inside. You decide your thoughts, not the other way round. When coaching enables you to explore your inner language, many people are surprised by how negative this can be deep down.

Set your own goals

Demands on us and our time seem only to increase. Economic recession doesn’t make things easier. External pressure to achieve can make work and life stressful. But what do you want to achieve? Are the external goals yours? Use a coaching conversation to work out your deepest motivation and rediscover your dreams. Then set stretching, timed goals to help you achieve them.

Prepare for a job interview

The job market is uncertain. It’s a time of change. To put yourself in a stronger position when applying, first use coaching to understand yourself and your motivation better. Then with my support, work on communicating yourself and your skills convincingly. We can develop writing content and organisation and speaking at interview; often small changes to the way you communicate can make a big difference.

How have others benefited?

See how Jane’s coaching has helped others

Q: But you are deaf. How do you coach?

For face-to-face coaching I speak and use a lipspeaker (www.lipspeaking.co.uk) to understand what you say. Like coaches, lipspeakers work to a strict professional code of conduct ethics and confidentiality. Deafness helps me read body language when coaching. I also coach by phone with a lipspeaker supporting, and using messaging e.g Skype. This has an advantage: you can save the conversation to read again later.

Bad day? Got that sinking feeling?

Try these quick, free tips!

1. Start with your body:

  • Step outside for 3 minutes, even if it’s raining. A quick change of scene – and daylight – can bring relief.
  • Give yourself a quick top-to-toe check: shoulders hunched? Breathing fast and shallow? Stomach complaining (hunger, acid?) Limbs aching? Throat dry? Stretch, breathe slowly from your diaphragm and close your eyes for a few moments. When you go back inside, drink water.

2. Now work on your mind:

  • Try ‘freeze framing’: picture stepping outside yourself and observing what is happening. This can give the perspective you need to get out of the immediate rut.
  • How important will the current problem feel in one day, one month or one year? Chances are the answer will be ‘not very’; this can give perspective.
  • Think of someone you know and like. What would they advise you to do?
  • Think of someone who has a harder situation than you. How serious would they find your current problem(s)?

3. Ask yourself some good questions:

  • What is the worst thing that can happen? What would you do if it did?
  • Will the world come to an end if you don’t do a particular task?
  • What could be good about the situation you are in? There is usually something valuable to be learnt from even the darkest moments.
  • What is at the root of the current problem and what can you do about it? One small decision or action can make a positive difference sometimes.
  • Whose agenda is driving the current situation? If it’s not yours, can you influence it in the right direction for you?

4. Be self-aware: When you go back to your task, write down your observations. They can help you in future similar situations.

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Thanks to: Brenda Hamlin, Chair of Manchester Deaf Centre, Beverley Roberts, lipspeaker and BSL interpreter and Amanda Glasspell, videographer and captioner.